I received what could be the ultimate compliment for a writer yesterday. I was preparing to conduct a preparing-for-retirement workshop when one of the participants pulled me aside to thank me for my book Retirement Ready? Yes, that’s a compliment, but it’s what came next that took it to another level.
At what age do we lose interest in sex? How you answer probably depends on how old you are. For a 20-year-old, 60 could be far enough away to suggest that’s the answer. For a 50-year-old it could be that 70 feels like a reasonable answer. Yet an 80-year-old may simply say, ‘I’ll let you know when I get there.’
Traditional retirement planning for couples is fatally flawed and often based on assumptions that, in reality, may not be so. Added to that is the possibility that preparing for retirement may have focused on finances with little thought for anything else.
In this podcast episode, Kym Piez and Bruce Manners talk about the complications involved for couples as they face retirement. Of course, it can be a delightful complication.
‘I am convinced that marital counselling is an important part of the investment that people can make to get the most out of retirement.’ This comes from Michael Finke in a paper he wrote concerning finances. That’s probably why the word ‘investing’ is used.
In the pre- and post-retirement years, remarriage can be complicated as it deals not only with developing a new relationship but also with the expectations any adult children may have. This is the third and final of a three-part series looking at issues couples may face approaching retirement from an interview with family therapist and author of Searching for Intimacy in Marriage, Dr Bryan Craig.
Here’s the scene. We’re almost eavesdropping on a therapy session with marriage therapist and author of Searching for Intimacy in Marriage, Dr Bryan Craig. This is the second of a three-part series looking at issues couples may face when approaching retirement. Hopefully, this ‘session’ is helpful for those who are contemplating divorce.
One of the problems couples often face on approaching retirement is the lack of thought they give to how it can impact on their relationship. And this may cause serious issues in the relationship, says marriage therapist and author of Searching for Intimacy in Marriage, Dr Bryan Craig.
By far the most-commented-on chapter in my book Retirement Ready? is ‘Let’s talk about sex’. I’ve been surprised by this response. It seems like it was an unexpected topic. And yet sex is a normal, natural and healthy part of a couple’s relationship—at whatever age.
When couples approach retirement they’re not doing it alone. Unless they’re both marching to the same beat on this, it could be difficult making it work. Here are 5 things that could help you negotiate this.