Knowing that you ‘matter’ is important at any stage of life, but at retirement, some of the things that have given you a sense that you matter—particularly your job—are gone. On things that matter, one Swiss research paper concluded: ‘Mattering implies that people are not only connected to others, but that they feel that they are important to others.’
How quickly you spend your retirement savings may be related to your personality. And your personality may impact more than if you have debt or a plan to leave an inheritance. That’s the finding of recent research by the American Psychological Association.
Here’s the scene. We’re almost eavesdropping on a therapy session with marriage therapist and author of Searching for Intimacy in Marriage, Dr Bryan Craig. This is the second of a three-part series looking at issues couples may face when approaching retirement. Hopefully, this ‘session’ is helpful for those who are contemplating divorce.
What I mean by the question is this: If all the good die young, how come you and I have been around long enough to be interested in retirement? We aren’t young. Does that make us not good—as in bad or evil?
Know yourself’ (‘know thyself’, if you prefer) is an ancient Greek saying that rings true for those approaching retirement. Knowing yourself is important as you plan your retirement because it’s your retirement.
‘Everyone has a grievance story, yours may be killing you’. That’s what a psychologist friend of mine, Dick Tibbits, says after his study of forgiveness. In simple terms: Unforgiveness destroys relationships.
Friendships are worth building. For your brain’s sake. Having friends as you age helps your brain. In fact, it ‘might be the best brain booster as you age’.
I was once dragged along on a week-long community service trip called STORM Co—meaning Service To Others Really Matters. It was organised by my wife for a group of 20 or so local high school students. It wasn’t that I was opposed to the idea of community service, but I say ‘dragged along’ because my […]
It’s healthy to laugh. At the Let’s Laugh website you will find a whole list of health benefits of laughter. These include: boosting the immune system, reducing the risk of heart disease, decreasing stress, reducing blood pressure, it can even be a mild antidepressant. These are benefits worth having. Each one of them.
Not to be morbid, but when you die you’ll leave a legacy of some kind. If you’re fortunate to have enough money you may be able to fund something that will help a whole lot of people way into the future. For most of us, our legacy will be mostly unknown, except to our family and a few we may have impacted on the way.