No one gets through life without gathering regrets of some kind. That means by the time we get to retirement, they have the potential to have a huge negative impact on our lives.
I was surprised to discover that retirement was ranked as number 10 in the Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory list of 43 life stressors. For instance, the death of a spouse is the number 1 stressor and is given 100 points. Divorce is number 2, with 73 points. Retirement, at number 10, is given 45 points.
There’s a trend among the middle-aged to focus on work and income at the expense of their personal wellbeing. It’s often done with the hope that they can work on wellbeing later—in retirement, perhaps.
Not all men are the same, of course, but there are some generalisations that fit most men. Here are five things men need to know about retirement.
Is the pursuit of happiness a good goal? Well-known Australian social researcher Hugh Mackay says, No! Happiness is a somewhat shallow goal and mostly unworkable. Wholeness is the thing to aim for.
One of the issues some retirees face is a lack of social contact when they retire. That’s why it’s good to get socially involved before retirement so you have connections in place.
‘If you want to be happy, learn to think like an old person.’ Excuse me? That sounds so wrong-headed. So why should we learn to think like an old person? Here are five reasons from John Leland’s book ‘Happiness is a Choice You Make’.
‘Superagers’ is the term coined for those more than 80 years of age who have the cognitive capacities of adults much younger. When some of their brains were checked—after they had died—scientists think these cognitive abilities may come from the presence of certain brain cells: Von Economo.
Loneliness is a growing problem—an epidemic, say some. And it can hit retirees if they aren’t careful. In the workplace, we’re usually forced to mix with people as part of the job. In retirement, you choose to mix or not.
This is the final of three podcasts where Dr Darren Morton talks about findings in his new book, Live More Happy.