Yes, your brain is communicating to you all the time, but the problem is that you control your brain’s thinking. So, how can your brain tell you anything?
Work plays a huge role in our daily life, and the loss of the ‘substance and challenge of work’; the relationship with colleagues; the place to go to work; and the daily routines can ‘leave a gaping hole, causing people to wonder, with so much new-found spare time, whether they matter anymore’.
Does stress, sadness or anger drive you to reach for the cookie jar? Do you turn to food for comfort or when you’re feeling bored? It’s common and very much a human behaviour.
We need to matter in retirement. Knowing the problem before retirement means we can work on it before we get there, either by working on things that will continue to help us matter in retirement, or having a plan to make sure we will matter then.
Knowing that you ‘matter’ is important at any stage of life, but at retirement, some of the things that have given you a sense that you matter—particularly your job—are gone. On things that matter, one Swiss research paper concluded: ‘Mattering implies that people are not only connected to others, but that they feel that they are important to others.’
How quickly you spend your retirement savings may be related to your personality. And your personality may impact more than if you have debt or a plan to leave an inheritance. That’s the finding of recent research by the American Psychological Association.
Here’s the scene. We’re almost eavesdropping on a therapy session with marriage therapist and author of Searching for Intimacy in Marriage, Dr Bryan Craig. This is the second of a three-part series looking at issues couples may face when approaching retirement. Hopefully, this ‘session’ is helpful for those who are contemplating divorce.
What I mean by the question is this: If all the good die young, how come you and I have been around long enough to be interested in retirement? We aren’t young. Does that make us not good—as in bad or evil?
Know yourself’ (‘know thyself’, if you prefer) is an ancient Greek saying that rings true for those approaching retirement. Knowing yourself is important as you plan your retirement because it’s your retirement.